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Subject:new kid on the block
Time:05:10 pm
Yeah! Just got my email that I can be a member! Now, about me.

I support the childfree lifestyle, but am not 100% sure that I am childfree. Still exploring my options.

I'm 23, female, high school teacher, living in chicago with my fiance. I love kids, but I think the part I do like best is being able to hand them back to their parents when I get tired of them/they have a dirty diaper/start to cry. I have a 3 year old cousin that I love, he is the cutest kid ever. But I am trying to spend a lot of time with him this summer, so that I not only get the 'aww cute' moments, but the 'god-damn kid won't stop crying' moments too, to see if I can handle that.
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Subject:Intro post
Time:05:09 pm
Hello everyone,
I'm Gwywnnydd, and I'm a childfree supporting parent :).
Other details- I'm 31, have a son who just had his first birthday, my hobbies are SCA and motorcycles. I live in the Seattle area. I'm all for people (women *and* men) having access to affordable, convenient contraception, with abortion a (last ditch) option. I'm not keen on the idea of women using abortion as a primary form of birth control, but I *do* see the need for having the option available.
I'm also a (rabid) supporter of the notion that parenting requires responsibility, and shouldn't be embarked upon if you are unable or unwilling to make the sacrifices it requires. Fortunately, the friends I have that are parents agree with me on this, so we can commisreate with each other when we see examples of Bad Parenting, and get the sinking feeling that bad parents give the rest of us a bad name.
I'm looking forward to the chance to talk about the issues surrounding one's choices with Y'all :).
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Subject:Should introduce....
Time:09:39 am
Current Mood:awake
Hello everyone....just a quick intro to me....

I'm 33, I live in Cleveland and I have a 6 year old son.

-I am adamantly pro-choice ( I took my son with me to the March in D.C. in April)
-I am support gay issues, same sex marriage, adoption, etc. (My son was ring bearer for his Uncle Tommy and Uncle Greg's wedding)
- I believe contraception should be cheaper, easily accessible and use properly taught to those who want it.
-I can firmly support the concept that some people should NEVER procreate, or at least have a license to do so :-)
- I love my son, but there at times when he pisses me off too.
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Subject:Children screaming in Resturants
Time:01:04 pm
Okay, m'people, I think I finally have a topic for the parents and the CFers in here.

On Thursday, I took my parents out to dinner at Applebee's (Where I am never going again for 2 reasons. One is children, two is the lady at the table having a birthday party who tried to take a drink of my Mudslide because it looked so good. O_o)

This has happened to me several times at several resturants. I liked to be seated in the smoking sections of the resturants, since most parents opt to not to sit there because of their children. However, this was not to be on Thursday, since there was a family of four sitting across from us. It wasn't too bad till halfway through our dinner, when their little girl, who I am guessing was around 3-5 since she was talking in full, complete sentences, started screaming and wailing. This went on for a good half an hour until the parents finished their meals and drinks and paid the bill. Neither one of them tried to quiet her down. It drove me absolutely insane.

So, my question here: Is it wrong for me to be completely brassed off that they allowed their child to scream in a crowded resturant for that long and didn't leave? (I'm pretty sure it was damn wrong of them to not try to quiet her down at all, but again, I'm not a parent.) Have you ever been in a situation like that with your own children? If so, what did you do?

 I've always been curious to see what parents have to say about this.
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Subject:A brief introduction to me
Time:02:04 pm
Current Mood:amusedamused
Hello all. Thought I'd finally get my butt on here and do an intro. When I saw that Plummie was doing a community like this, I knew I had to join.
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Time:07:19 pm
Current Mood:contemplativecontemplative
Hi, I'm Samantha. I'm 17 and a law student in Western Australia. I'm unsure as to if I'll ever want kids, but they definitely don't fit my life for at least another 10 years.
I am...
- completely pro-choice
- supportive of same sex marriage and adoption
- pro-contraception
- in agreeance with the concept that some people should not be parents because they... well... are breeders... just generally it is iressponsible people that irk me
- not hating children in general at the moment, but sometimes individual ones bug me.
Hope to have a good time talking to all of you.
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Time:07:38 am
Current Mood:cheerfulcheerful
This is in response to a post by Hedgee. I thought it was a good question to start the discussion with.

Why did I choose to have children?

I can honestly say that it was not a conscious decision. I just always knew that I wanted to have them. I fell pregnant by accident the first time at age 17 but the thought of not continuing with the pregnancy never entered my mind. Because I was so young when I had my daughter I was very aware that a large number of people "disapproved" of me. I can be very difficult as a young mum to feel that people are just waiting for me to make a mistake so they could judge me.

I know that people will say that just knowing or an accidental pregnancy is not a "reason" and yes you are correct I don't dispute that fact. I also believe that a persons choice to remain CF is exactly that "their choice" I never question this but I know other's do. My daughter is now the same age that I was when I had her and she has no desire to have children. She has expressed this since she was about 13yrs old and I have never questioned her about it. She vaguely mentioned the idea of perhaps adopting from overseas in her late thirties but the majority of the time she is content to remain CF for life. Will this attitude change in the future? I don't know and honestly don't care. Her life, her choice.

A question to the other parent's do you find that once you have a child people then start to question you as to when you are having the next one. I found that people hate for you to have an odd number of children, after the first they want a second, then if you go onto a third they either ask why? or want you to have a fourth???

It irritates me that other's feel that they have a right to question your choice about such a personal aspect of your life.
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Subject:Quick intro.
Time:08:10 pm
Current Mood:busy
Hi there, i'm Seonaid, another parent on the board now although I imagine we are still way out numbered! I have a 3 month old son and live in Edinburgh, Scotland. Met my husband at university where we were both studying physics (him just physics, me with electronics aswell) We both ended up dropping out, me due to carbon monoxide poisoning and him due to money issues.

I work at a law firm as a marketing/database assistant and my husband works as a telelbooker for a big cab firm. I work days he works nights so we share the childcare equally :-)

Anything else you want to know? I am crap at these intro posts.

p.s. You will have to excuse my sometimes terrible spelling and grammer, I am dyslexic and we were never taught grammer at school and i've never really managed to pick it up.
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Subject:Another intro post.
Time:02:33 pm
Figured I’d introduce myself. I’m CJ, and I’m childfree. (Does anyone else feel like they’re at some kind of ________ Anonymous meeting?) I’m one of the ones who doesn’t want kids, but I’m okay with other people’s kids most of the time.

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I work retail, which as I joke to my coworkers a lot, reaffirms my conviction to be childfree. I see a few good parents, and I try to thank them when I see them, but unfortunately the vast majority I see don’t seem to be trying to be good parents. Letting the kid run wild throughout my store and not paying the least bit of attention is not the way to go, thanks.

Whoops. Tangent. Sorry. ;-)

I look forward to seeing discussion from both sides.
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Subject:Intro post, why not
Time:05:28 am
Current Mood:mellowmellow

Chris, 24, from Auckland, New Zealand. Consciously childfree from age 20 or so, I'm currently studying to be a high school teacher. Some people ask whether that's a contradiction, in which case I tell them that I see enough kids at school, and having kids at home might possibly cramp my patience just a tad.

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