Chris, 24, from Auckland, New Zealand. Consciously childfree from age 20 or so, I'm currently studying to be a high school teacher. Some people ask whether that's a contradiction, in which case I tell them that I see enough kids at school, and having kids at home might possibly cramp my patience just a tad.
In truth, that has nothing to do with why I'm childfree. I have no problems with dating single parents (though not single BNPs!), for example. As long as I don't have any genetic kids, I'm fine. (This view differs from that of many childfree people, and some would even say that I'm not really a bona fide childfree person because I'm still okay with step-parenting. But whatever, I'll cross that bridge if/when I get there.)
My primary reason is personal to me, and I won't discuss it here. But population issues and my belief that this is too painful a world to consciously want to bring anyone into are definitely at the top of my list.
I argue population issues like this: I am making space for people who genuinely want to have their own kids, who I think should be allowed to. I don't think society should be applying pressure to those who don't, though! Society should be happy for those who want kids, and not be greedily trying to recruit everyone.
My belief that the world is a painful place comes from my life experiences. Society is distinctly unkind to those who (deliberately or otherwise) fall outside its norms, and I would not wish to encourage anyone to quell their individuality just to lessen their pain. But they would never have this dilemma to begin with if they weren't brought to this world!
I like kids, even though I treat them like adults, unlike many friends I know. (I remember that even as a kid myself, I spent most time with adults, and seldomly with other kids, so I have no experience with kid-speak.) However, given the way society presently is, I have chosen not to reproduce. If my main reasons are addressed, I may reconsider (and even then I'd still vastly prefer to adopt or step-parent), but I do not believe this will happen in my lifetime.
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