This is in response to a post by Hedgee. I thought it was a good question to start the discussion with.
Why did I choose to have children?
I can honestly say that it was not a conscious decision. I just always knew that I wanted to have them. I fell pregnant by accident the first time at age 17 but the thought of not continuing with the pregnancy never entered my mind. Because I was so young when I had my daughter I was very aware that a large number of people "disapproved" of me. I can be very difficult as a young mum to feel that people are just waiting for me to make a mistake so they could judge me.
I know that people will say that just knowing or an accidental pregnancy is not a "reason" and yes you are correct I don't dispute that fact. I also believe that a persons choice to remain CF is exactly that "their choice" I never question this but I know other's do. My daughter is now the same age that I was when I had her and she has no desire to have children. She has expressed this since she was about 13yrs old and I have never questioned her about it. She vaguely mentioned the idea of perhaps adopting from overseas in her late thirties but the majority of the time she is content to remain CF for life. Will this attitude change in the future? I don't know and honestly don't care. Her life, her choice.
A question to the other parent's do you find that once you have a child people then start to question you as to when you are having the next one. I found that people hate for you to have an odd number of children, after the first they want a second, then if you go onto a third they either ask why? or want you to have a fourth???
It irritates me that other's feel that they have a right to question your choice about such a personal aspect of your life.
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